Meeting My Boyfriend's Parents and Family 101
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“I remember meeting my boyfriend's family for the first time. His mum Meeting your girlfriend's or boyfriend's parents for the first time is one of those occasions you dread. Depending A bottle of wine, a fruit basket or a bag of edible goodies is usually the best gift to take when you're meeting the parents for the first time. 26 Jul Q. Hey Jordan! In a couple of weeks, I am going to my boyfriend's hometown, and will be staying with his family. This is going to be the first time I am meeting his parents. From all of the stories I have heard they seem wonderful, but I have no idea what to get them for a gift. Much appreciated! – Christina. You and your boyfriend are in a serious relationship, and he's been telling his folks great things about you. Now, the time has come for you to meet them. Be friendly, act sincere, and bring along a small present as a kind gesture. They'll begin to adore you just as much as their son does.
What gift should i bring my boyfriend's parents? May 11, 9: We're in college and have been "officially" dating for about four months. His mom and stepdad took us out to dinner about a month ago and said I was welcome to accompany boyfriend when he goes home for about a week before his summer job starts. I mentioned to him last night that I wanted to bring a gift of some kind of course!
My mom suggested a plant boyfriend's mom gardens a little.
I was thinking I could get a large nice potted plant, but my transportation situation is limited to public and bicycle. Plus I don't know a lot about purchasing plants no idea what kind would make a good gift and am extremely indecisive when it comes to buying gifts for people.
I had thought about sending an amazon. What should I bring boyfriend's mom? Should I send something after instead?
What about a cute watering can from Etsy, or something like that? A plant is ideal, but make it a small plant, not large. There's always a place for a small plant, and it's Best Online Dating Sites London the promise of growth in it. Don't sweat the issue too much or it will show. A casual gift sincerely offered will be perfect. Don't give money or a gift card; it's not a birthday.
When I was dating a girl at college who hailed from a different part of the country, we brought things to each others' parents that were more common to our hometowns macadamia nuts for my NH parents, maple syrup for her HI parents.
I don't know if you Gift For Meeting Boyfriends Parents For The First Time are from drastically different parts of the country, but maybe something local to where you're from? I think a bouquet of flowers when you arrive and a thank you note after you leave is more than enough. You don't need to give a plant or anything hard to carry. You're in college-- if you were 30, then a plant or bottle of wine or something a little pricier and more permanent would be appropriate.
As someone who has been in this situation with limited transportation ability in the past, I have found that food items are just about perfect. Chocolate makes a great gift if his parents like it. It should be something little, so that you aren't placing an imposition on them to find a place for it, take care of it, etc. Fruit a gift basket or a pineapple or the likewine, a few chocolates, or a small plant are all good options. As far as plants go, orchids are fairly common for this kind of gift.
It should be a token of your appreciation - something to say "I thought of you! Check with your boyfriend about appropriateness of whatever you'd get - you wouldn't want to get wine for a household with an AA member in it, you wouldn't want to give flowers to someone with an allergy or a cat that would eat the plant and get sick, etc.
Flowers sound good but I think an orchid might be easily damaged during transport. Also, they tend to not flower ever again after you've bought them.
Nice cheese and crackers? Some special jams, maple syrup, etc from the area where you and your bf go to school? Food is particularly good, because it's for everyone to nibble on while you're there. I'd caution on the food, as his parents are older and may have issues with some foods or diet.
Let his parents know how much you adore their son Give the gift of fluffy flapjacks by filling a basket with chef-quality ingredients certain to take Sunday morning breakfast to the next level. Give the aspiring author or poet in your life pretty notebooks or stationery showcased in a vintage wire file basket. Bundt Pans and Molds Assemble spices, tea towels, wooden spoons and other kitchen essentials in a copper Bundt pan or pudding mold. Gooey Chocolate Crinkle Cookies Delight chocoholics on your gift list with these soft-centered cookies that are a snap to bake.
Do you really want to give chocolate to a diabetic? Check with the BF to see if there's something they need to stay away from and what sort of snacks they like.
Even more notable than a gift is to be a good houseguest- help clear the table, keep bed made, etc. Ask polite questions, compliment the food, and don't talk too much.
A bouquet of cut flowers are a good gift, I think. I brought my BF's mom an orchid on an early visit. Plants can be contentions, but it was her birthday, and it was all I could think of on short notice. She doesn't like houseplants, I discovered when I gave it to her Except, that plant has since lived for several years, looks fantastic, and has flowered repeatedly.
So now she's pretty proud of her orchid prowess. I would always go with a nice bottle of wine. It is kind of the classic hostess gift at least where I come from.
Definitely not a gift card or anything like that. Like Aquaman said, it isn't a birthday. And like others have said, keep it small-ish and not overly expensive. Seconding Greg Nog's suggestion of a regional specialty unless you two are from the same region! Back in the day, I brought along a pretty tin of fancy tea to my boyfriend's folks.
Calligraphy or, in this case, faux calligraphy is an easy way to add an artistic touch to all sorts of handmade gifts, gift wrap or, when popped into a pretty frame, the free-flowing script makes a sweet gift all by itself. Ask him about their quirks or pet peeves so you can avoid doing anything to annoy them. Flower Footsies Mums are one of the most fleeting flowers of fall, but they're in season year round thanks to these stylish slippers.
I didn't know if they drank alcohol or had dietary restrictions. It's about 32 years later and my now M-I-L still has the tin in which she keeps assorted kitchen doohickeys. I was going to suggest wine, but the OP may not be old enough to purchase it yet.
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I second the handwritten note when you leave; it's so rare to receive these nowadays that I'm always extremely gratified to get one. Food or flowers are good second choices; I'm always very hesitant to give plants ever since a friend told me, "Flowers are a gift, but plants are a responsibility and I've got too many of those already.
She sounds fond and approving of you. A 5x7 picture frame with a nice photo of the two of you might be appreciated.
No allergies to worry about, no imposition like a plant makes on you or her. It goes in a drawer if she doesn't like it, and the frame can be re-used in the unlikely event that you don't marry. A nice photo of her son, with or without you, would probably be very welcome. My dude's Mom has some photos of him that I sent her, and she also has a photo I took as her Windows desktop background. Moms adore photos of their kids. If they aren't allergic to nuts, a 5lb bag of Bazzini pistachios.
It's a social food!
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In my experience gardeners almost always prefer to choose their own plants. But they can also almost always use more tools. A good trowel with a stainless steel blade rust on the cutting edge dramatically increases digging resistance is hard to find, and most gardeners seem not to have one.
Here is the most likely-looking one I could find on line this morning; they're pretty cheap-- I suggest getting her two. Regional specialties are good, food and drink are good, flowers or a small plant is good.
No on a gift card - I Gift For Meeting Boyfriends Parents For The First Time why you would think of it, but I would stay more personal. Definitely a handwritten thank you afterwards. Unless they were raised by wolves, they would nonetheless be gracious when someone pays them the kindness of a small gift. Chiming in How To Show Him You Love Him those saying big NO to gift cards in this context.
Better no gift than a gift card. The note afterward is a nice touch. Nthing regional treats, if you in fact live in a different area than his folks. When I first visited my future in-laws who live in GeorgiaI brought a small sampling of Detroit-specific things like a bag of Better Made potato chips, one jar of Sanders' hot fudge topping, and a bottle of Vernor's ginger ale.
I also sent a card with a handwritten message thanking them for their hospitality, etc, after I returned home, and MIL used to mention that card for many years afterward "It was so nice to get some mail that wasn't a bill" and "I knew you were a good catch for [son] when you sent that beautiful note. Handwritten, snail-mailed correspondence is such a rarity these days that recipients really remember and appreciate such gestures.
Thanks everyone, all your answers were really helpful! I went with a cute Gift For Meeting Boyfriends Parents For The First Time basket planter with a few different plants in it - a little flowering plant and a fern type thing. My bf said she has a bunch of potted plants so adding one more to the bunch shouldn't be a problem.
I'm also going to make some oreo fudge brownies from a "secret" recipe I have, for the family. Thanks for the advice! Not to be mean, but I think my parents would be amused, rather than grateful if they got a picture of me and a s.
Don't give plants to gardeners.
Meeting My Boyfriend's Parents and Family 101
People are always giving me plants because I'm a gardener, but they give me plants that I don't want or need, and then I feel obligated to keep them, or I let them die and then I feel guilty. I know it's curmudgeonly but it's really annoying. Cut flowers, box of nuts or chocolate, some food specialty that reflects your family background we always used to bring Turkish Delight as a hostess gifta twelve pack of specialty beers or a bottle of nice wine, then a thank you note at the end; or take them out to dinner one night that you're there.
Crap, just noticed that it happened already. That's what I get for not finishing the thread. Plus, I feel bad for saying "no plants" when you got a plant! This thread is closed to new comments.