No Contact IS Your Revenge On The Narcissist
Here's what happens when you break up with a narcissist
The basic thing to know about all Narcissists is that while they may have many gifts and talents—intelligence, wit, charm, business sense -- forming and maintaining intimate relationships is not one of them. Their relationships are very shallow no matter how much they profess to love you. Many Narcissistic. 6 Jul You could be thinking, like I did and like I am sure James's new woman thought, “ He can't be that bad if his ex's want him back, he must be telling the truth . (after you ignored emails and text messages for 3 months, the first time you finally give in and respond he seduced you and dumps you in one fell. 13 Jan You are probably in either of two situations right now: 1) The narcissist has already discarded you and is completely ignoring you, no matter how much you When this happens, for the love of God and the high heavens above, please – ignore him. . Dealing with being dumped by a narcissistic husband.
I guess I am asking this because so far in my readings many of you have experienced some sort of comeback from your N's. My question in my case, since he changed his mind about me, we did have fights that led up to it, where I got scared of his anger and said things I didn't mean, such as "cooling down" usually just me freaking out cuz he was mad and I didn't know he had that side, or I thought that was in his past, whatever.
I know that's my fault, but again, he was the one who ended it, and then after my craying calls, being hung up on, and letterts to which he told me to never talk to him again and that is three months now, I think it's much more unlikely I will ever hear from him again.
Anyone else Qiran Com Sign In this position? It's very hard cuz I can't really relate to the posts about What Happens When You Ignore A Narcissist Who Dumped You back, I told him to stay away, as in my situaiton, I am the one who is being punished for being what I feel like is the most disgusting piece of pond scum on the earth.
Love to hear yours tories! I'm so confused I feel like I've been hit by a tornado. He has completely cut me off as if I never existed. I feel a Hugh hole inside me like my whole lifew has been turned upside down.
I have so many questions and so much confusion. Nothing makes sense in regards to being dumped. I question on a daily basis if he is a Narcisisst or if it's asbergers. He wain't a social person but loved to be the centre of attention.
Loved to be admired. He referred to all ex's as psycho but also compared me to them pointing out there good traits. He would forbid me to do certain things. He also has OCD and depression.
He loved women's attention and believes all women fall in love with him. He doesnt like physical contact hugs. He never ever said he loved me or had feelings etc. He would tell me to put a bag over my head when we were in bed and then say he was joking.
It's our different personality I'm too sensitive and our personalities are not compatible. He is also an alcoholic and blamed me for his drinking. Anyone have any answers?. I worry about weather I will hear from him ever again.? I do feel that he met someone before he dumped me.
He is your Father who knows you better than anyone inside and out. He knows what is good for you. You may not feel you broken or needed a wake up call.
Marie July 1, Mel, Thank you for posting this article today. Many of us, myself included, spent years trying to heal through therapy and groups etc. After 18 year marriage, 2 actual divorces and 4 total filings, two protection orders and many times of leaving and coming back after destroying his life, I am divorced and free from my Narc. Then again, he did try lying about raping me even roping someone who was elsewhere in the house into the fallout and watched as they tore me apart. In the beginning, he used to passionately kiss….
Think of it also as God let him into your life so you can teach him something. He learned from you. GOD brung these men in our live sfor a reason. Isaid that I was fine alone also. You have to see the big pic and the long run. God only kept him in your life for a very short time to teach you a lesson and for the N to do no more dqmage to you and our son.
YOu need to Thank God for taking him out your life. Thank him for this experience and assure him you trust his judgement for wherever he wants to go with this. One is the face of a God and the other a face of the Devil.
N's that dumped you, do they come back?
Beware He lurks your souls. Keep one hand on your heart and the other hand over your eyes.
Let him walk pass you not into you. Ghost of love will possess. They sure do have a way of rejecting you that causes you to feel like the most undesirable thing to have crawled on the face of the earth. No one can reject as painfully as a Narc can. Your job is to realize that you were rejected by a severely disturbed person. A person who is NOT "right" in the head. A person who could not see you if you stood in front of him. You said in another post that you aren't even sure he is a narc.
Just reading your words tells me in the least what he did to you was as cold and cruel as any Narc I ever saw. Have you been reading up about NPD and how it affects the victims? If not, start ASAP. You will find him in there. The rest of us are going by what we've read and heard. He did you the biggest favor by dumping you. What it means is you are too strong for them to control, too sound in your character for them to manipulate to the degree they want to crush your spirit.
Narcs discard us when they give up trying to control and brainwash. Predators in the wild might chase anything Afraid To Talk To Women, but they put most of their effort into taking down the weak and sick. In my experience they always come back.
So be prepared to slam the door in his face when he does. Would you open the door up to Ted Bundy if he came a knocking? I don't think you would. What you described in your personal story was just awful. You know who he is and what he is all about. He came home, told me he didn't love me anymore, and I found out right after he had an OW. In the next sentence literally after he dumped me, xnh asked how long he could stay in my house with me.
I can really relate with your story. Reading this forum helps me to heal as I know now, it was never my fault and I could never do anything more right. Conquering a highly valued romantic partner is one of the best ways to attain this.
I threw him out right then. Within days, xnh was back bugging me because he wanted to be "friends" aka, suck me for supply.
The Narcissist Loses Their Mind When You Don't Respond To Them
My comments to him were, "You dumped ME. I didn't ask for this this. That is was YOU chose. My choice of verbiage would have been a whole lot less "lady-like". I finally had to file a harassment complaint to get him to leave me alone at work. Xnh has made two good solid hoover attempts at my house as well.
One time, I looked out my front window and his truck was in my driveway. His excuse was for being there was that his hideous P daughter had gotten pregnant by her gang boyfriend, and xnh was "just going to have to move away to get away from all her drama".
His P daughter is someone that I detest and xnh has known it for yearsso I knew it was just an excuse for him to hoover. Two days later, he'd moved his P daughter right into his apartment with him. The second hoover attempt was the day I got out of the hospital with food poisoning.
He called me an hour after I was released, using the excuse that he hoped I was feeling better. What he really called for, was to tell me that his hideous P daughter had gotten beat up by her boyfriend and was in the emergency room apparently at the same time as myself. Once again, he was "testing the waters" for potential Dating Websites Over 50, and so he could whine about his self-inflicted drama.
I told him I had to go puke, and hung up on him. Then I added his numbers to my call rejection so that he can't call again. Personally, I don't really think it matters to a narc whether they've dumped you or you dumped them.
To them supply is supply. They come back occasionally to see if you have any potential for NS.
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It's all about them. When they have enough supply currently, they'll go inflict themselves onto others. However if they feel the need for more NS, they'll surface again to see if their OLD sources us will fall for their traps, and give them some. The more desperate they are for supply, the more they return. The only way to get rid of them is to make sure you give them NONE.
Narcs seem to follow the "path of least resistance". If your supply is not forthcoming, but someone else will give it to them, they go the easy route by sucking on another person.
Our goal is to give the narc no supply, and they'll move on to easier prey. NC is the only way to do this. Don't run after them. The ex-P begged me for my home address and phone number If I had stayed in the dorms, he would've known where I was.
When he sabotaged my teacher education program, I still kept NC.